Letmebefrank ( member #86994) posted at 10:45 PM on Tuesday, September 1st, 2026
So I honestly believe that there are cases where the cheater makes the wrong decision and then would never admit it because they never want to face the "I told you so" situation.
This is case with my father as well. He knows but he can’t even admit it to himself.
I think you need to prepare yourself for any kind of reaction. From the full on genuine remorse (not likely based on what I’m seeing from your WW) to the last ditch "I’m not sure this is what I want" kind of fishing expedition.
You should also be ready for her current posture to harden and her nastiness to increase as she suffers the fallout from her choices.
Sorry Beetrain, this really sucks.
kenny55 ( member #23014) posted at 3:31 PM on Wednesday, September 2nd, 2026
Sorry you are here, but I want to assure you that you will be better off once you are away from this person. Keep in mind that the children always gravitate towards the stable parent. Yes, I lost time with my girls when they were young that I can never get back. They are grown now. I am not the biological father of the oldest who lives 3 hours away. Just this year I will spend a month worth of time with her and the grandkids. Her mother got to eat pizza in a hotel room for a couple of hours.
My ex laughed at me at our divorce. Since then she has married and divorced again. Has lost the fully paid house she received from the divorce and her daughters rarely see her even on mothers day.
Don't be afraid of divorce. Most of us have been there.
Pogre ( member #86173) posted at 4:31 PM on Wednesday, September 2nd, 2026
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 3:19 PM on Tuesday, September 1st, 2026
Plus the success rate of relationships or marriages that start as affairs is very, very low.
This is per an AI search result:
Less than 2% of relationships that start as affairs last long-term.Specific statistical breakdowns include:
Only 3% to 7% of affairs lead to marriage.
Of those marriages, approximately 75% end in divorce.
Relationships that begin on a foundation of lies and deceit just don't tend to make it, but of all of them I'll bet 99% of them think they will.
[This message edited by Pogre at 4:32 PM, Wednesday, September 2nd]
Where am I going... and why am I in this handbasket?
