gr8ful ( member #58180) posted at 12:52 AM on Monday, July 28th, 2025
Excellent points Pogre, and while I know this statement is continuously parroted here:
You're both 50% responsible for any issues in the marriage, but she's 100% responsible for cheating on you.
I’m not so sure the BS is always truly "50% responsible" for the struggling marriage. Think about it. For one spouse to have the capacity to traumatize the other in the worst way possible, I think it’s more than possible THEY were the ones "causing issues" in the marriage.
Pogre ( member #86173) posted at 10:21 PM on Monday, July 28th, 2025
You know what? You're right. Not every situation necessarily falls into an even 50/50 split when it comes to relationship issues. There are plenty of situations where one may be far more responsible for problems than the other, but at the end of the day there is a shared responsibility, even if lopsided, when it comes to problem solving.
An Affair however, and I know you agree, is always 100% on the adulterer.
Where am I going... and why am I in this handbasket?
