Topic is Sleeping.
demolishedinside (original poster member #47839) posted at 8:47 PM on Friday, May 3rd, 2024
I logged on to my computer today to work on a class I need to take, and SI was one of the recommendations. I know it's been over two years, and probably no one remembers me or is still here who was here when I was.
I do know that I lived for the stories of peace and a new life. My life now is so very different than the first day I came here for advice and support. I am divorced and running a household on my own, raising my three kids. Though things are not always easy, they are solid and good. I get out quite a bit to live music and basketball games, and I find joy and laughter along the way. My life is not perfect, but I feel a level of peace that I hadn't felt all those years we tried to be in R. We coparent well, and for the most part, my life is just the usual. I thought I'd pop in to say hello to anyone who may still be here and to just share in case this might help anyone who is still struggling. I never knew when I was in the midst of it all that this side would be good, but it really has been quite ok. 
Dem
BS - me/3 kids
DD - April 2015 / SA-Jan. 28, 2017
DD2- October 23, 2018
Divorced and happy
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 3:20 AM on Saturday, May 4th, 2024
Feels good to read a positive update!!
Glad things are going well!!
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
skeetermooch ( member #72169) posted at 4:11 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2024
Love to hear that you have moved into a happy and peaceful life!
Me: BS 56 on DDay 1 - 7/2019 DIVORCED - 1/2021
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 9:13 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2024
Dem- thanks for the update! There are many of us here who remember you :-)
And so glad to hear you are doing well. There REALLY is light at the end of the tunnel, right?
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 1:29 AM on Sunday, May 5th, 2024
Of course I remember you. I’m so glad to hear things are going well for you!
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 2:02 AM on Sunday, May 5th, 2024
So happy for you and that you found a new peace and normal. Many of us remember you.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 9:10 PM on Monday, May 6th, 2024
Hope you are doing well demolishedinside nice to hear from you and glad things are going well. Life is so much better on the other side of this I sometimes have to pinch myself :)
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
ThisIsSoLonely ( Guide #64418) posted at 6:52 PM on Thursday, May 23rd, 2024
I remember you as well - so glad you got to join me/us on the happily-no-longer-consumed-by-infidelity club!
You are the only person you are guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with. Act accordingly.
Constantly editing posts: usually due to sticky keys on my laptop or additional thoughts
demolishedinside (original poster member #47839) posted at 1:45 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2024
Oh gosh! I’m so glad to see so many of you doing well. I feel like I was so deep in pain when I was here that I almost don’t recognize that woman at all. I’m so much more me now. I’m going to scroll through and see if I can find some updates on all of you.
BS - me/3 kids
DD - April 2015 / SA-Jan. 28, 2017
DD2- October 23, 2018
Divorced and happy
Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 2:52 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2024
The feeling of peace after the chaos of infidelity is amazing. I am thankful for it every day. Sometime I forget to fully appreciate it when I have my sad days, so I force myself to go back to the darkest times just as a reminder of how far I've come. Hoping for good things for you...
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:57 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced
Topic is Sleeping.
